WHILE it may be many men’s dream, when Fred discovered his wife of 17 years and mother of his two children in bed with another woman, joining in the ‘fun’ was the furthest thing from his mind, even though his friends still won’t quit teasing him about it.
“I may be different from other men, because I have friends who tell me I was joking because I should have just joined the both of them,” he said.
“But to tell you the truth, when I saw them my heart sank and my desire disappeared.”
He said the situation affected him so much that his blood pressure could not be stabilised for a long time.
“My doctor kept giving me tablets until at one time I was taking four different blood pressure tablets. This is a woman I married after I lost my first wife tragically, and I have always treated my women with due respect and love. Always. I don’t act as if I own her. I have always given her freedom.”
He said giving her too much freedom could possibly be one of the reasons that led her to get involved with another woman.
Fred discovered his wife’s extramarital affair four years ago and has since been trying to salvage his marriage. The first thing he did was seek counselling.
“And you extend the love a little further by giving her the benefit of the doubt,” he said. “I was told by a Reverend that once those things happen there is seldom any return [to normalcy]. And I am not about having threesomes. Because when I said ‘I do’, I said it to one person, not she and friend,” he said. “So based on what I was told that there is never usually any return, I allowed it to run a course hoping that in time she would realise that this was not her. Because it’s more than one woman I know who has been that way and have reverted.”
What has made the situation worse for Fred is the fact that he was the one who introduced his wife to her new partner.
“They always seemed very affectionate towards each other,” he explained. “And she would come to the house. On one or two occasions I would see them kissing at the back door just before she departed. And on another occasion I was home and the girl was there and the two of them were in the room locked up. I don’t remember where the children were at that time. I got curious. Above our room door is a design pattern, so I climbed up on a chair and looked through the pattern and I saw the girl kissing her breast. They were both in the bed naked. I took a picture of it because that is where I started gathering evidence. So from that time I started thinking about separation.
“I have held on now for four years just trying to give it enough time to see if it would change,” he said. “I even said to her, ‘I will work with you through this’. She used to sleep out on weekends. But she said she didn’t want a divorce. We have two small children and she would be missing on weekends, leaving her children and husband.
“After counselling and trying to work this thing out with her I said, ‘Listen, you are so caught up in this thing and can’t let go, I would rather you let the girl come and visit you here so you can be with the kids rather than leave them home alone all weekend’. It was a bitter pill for me to swallow because I had to endure the two of them locked up in the room and I didn’t disturb them. So for that you can call me a big frigging idiot or a ‘maama’ man – call me anything you want. But that was all in trying to lend support. Because it was not like I was there and watching her. They were locked up in the room and I was in the other room with the children.”
James said the situation is so traumatic for him that if he now sees an attractive woman naked he cannot get an erection.
“That is how much this thing has affected me, and it’s not because of the tablets that I am taking. I’m just totally crushed and demotivated,” he said.
He believes part of his wife’s reason for her affair is that he spent so much time working and trying to care for her and the family that he may not have shown her enough love.
He said though he has exercised as much patience and understanding as possible and tried to be supportive to her, this is not the best idea and he is not thinking of filing for a divorce.
“A gentleman supports his wife in many forms and things that you know you share. Life is about sharing, but my sharing now is viewed as negative because I’m being told I behave like Mr Perfect. So right now I don’t have a wife. I’m not sleeping with my wife but I still have to be mature and approach the subject the best way I can.”
Now this was not written by Dat a Gwaan suh nuh cuss bout di Poor English. However I had to share this because da yute yah love publicity stunt gone to bed
DANCEHALL ARTIST JAMARLEY GUTHRIE MORE POPULAR KNOWN TO THE PUBLIC AS GAZA NANA OR NANA ICE has reported
to the media about treats from the Jamaican Constabulary force J.C.F [the Jamaican police] saying he’s now a person of
Interest to the M.I.T MAJOR INVESTAGATION TASK FORCE and the next WANTED list to be put out by the JAMAICAN Police
will include his name
“I am now worried for my life and my freedom” said GAZA NANA , “I DON’T KNOW WHAT I COULD HAVE DONE FOR THE
POLICE TO BE INTRESTED IN ME”. “I HAVE NEVER BEEN CONVICTED OF ANY THING BUT IVE BEEN ARRESTED FOR A NUMBER
OF MINOR THINGS AS AN HIGH SCHOOL STUDIENT, BUT SINCE 2010 IVE NEVER BEEN IN TROUBLE WITH THE LAW SO WHY
AM I A TARGET TO M.I.T NOW”? “SINCE WE FORMED GAZA NEXT GENERATION GNG TO CONTINUE THE GAZA LEGACY I
AND FELLOW MEMBERS OF GNG HAVE BEEEN HATED A LOT AND ARE NOW TARGETS OF BOBYLAN WHAT COULD BE THE
PROBLEM? ONLY THING I CAN SAY ITS JUST THE NEME WE TOOK UP ON OUR SELVES (Gaza Next Generation), to me the
system hates the name GAZA, VYBZ KARTEL and THE PEOPLE WHO SUPPORT GAZA”. SAYS GAZA NANA ICE
Since the conviction of Entertainer/KING OF THE DANCEHALL Adidja VYBZ KARTEL Palmer and fellow member of the Gaza
Empire Shawn Shawn Storm Campbell along with Andre Saint John and Kyra Jones the Jamaican Police have been
removing pictures and graphitic writings associated with GAZA EMPIRE AND VYBZ KARTEL
“MAYBE THEY JUST WANN GET RID OF THE GAZA IN JAMAICA” GAZA NANA says, cause even one of the members of Gaza NG
was apart of the Jamaica Constabulary Force island wide tour that goes into schools/ Communities to put on small concert
for people to Full joy with the police But since they find out he was apart of Gaza Next Generation G.N.G They drop him an
say he can no longer take part on there tours so it seems as if we are ENEMIES or THREATH to Jamaican Police and Society
the system just hates anybody associated with GAZA IT seems to me that they really went and build evidence against ADDI
and all they say about him isn’t true cause if I just have the name GAZA NEXT GENERATION and they want to put my name
on wanted list WHAT WOULDN’T THE JAMAICAN POLICE DO? GAZA NANA said,
“I just want the world to know that we the GAZA NEXT GENERATION are Decent citizens of Jamaica we are no criminals and
we are just simple trying to keep a Great Music Group of Our country Jamaica alive That’s why we took on the name GNG
We respect Vybz Kartel but we know of nothing he was convicted of nor nothing of Waterford and ill also like the Jamaican
police to know that I GAZA NANA ICE have nothing against them I just don’t want my name to be Involve with no criminal
activates as I have never been involved in none I only do music and I’m a proud represent/Supporter of vybz kartel and the
Gaza Empire musically GAZA NANA Ended his statement, The star tried to contact to Jamaican Police but there was no one to
comment on the Matte
IS the Jamaican system really fighting Gaza?
Di question di ppl dem a ask a who name Gaza nana
Cho nuh badda mi
United Kingdom rapper Cashtastic is trying to come to grips with life in Jamaica following his deportation last week by UK Border Agency (UKBA), which claims there are inconsistencies with his documents.
Cashtastic, born Cashief Nichols, has been living in the UK for more than 14 years after migrating from Jamaica to live with his mother at the tender age of six.
The rapper's deportation came just months after he had inked a publishing deal with internationally renowned label Universal Records. The artiste also disclosed in an interview that he had a major record deal on the table. However, he was waiting on the right time to sign.
Cashtastic feels he is a victim of injustice and has made several attempts to have the decision of the UKBA reversed.
He also told BBC Newsbeat recently that he considers the UK his rightful home.
"I'm born in Jamaica,, but the UK's my home. What I need is for something to be done so I can return properly and get some form of justice," the 20-year-old said.
The rapper, who is known for social commentary singles such as Life on The Edge, My Life and Running, told the media he is finding it difficult to adjust to life in Jamaica.
Culture shock
"Everything is just a culture shock. It's nothing to what I expected. It's like me going to Japan or something. It's literally me going to somewhere I've got no knowledge of," he said.
As a result of his issues with the border agency, the rapper was forced to cancel several appearances in the UK, which also happens to be the strongest market for his music.
One of those missed opportunities was to attend the premiere of his latest effort, Life On The Edge, on Mistajam's '1Xtra' show.
The rapper is hoping that the UKBA will reconsider its decision to eject him from the country and is also very optimistic that his prayers will be answered.
An avid social networker, Cashtastic has been posting videos to his Instagram account showing his fans parts of the reality which he is now faced with in Jamaica. He also posted messages to his fans on Twitter and Instagram encouraging them to keep supporting his music while he works out his 'situation'.
BLESSED AND FAVOURED
"Anywhere in the world that I am, I will always be blessed and highly favoured. A lot of people are happy about what happened to me, but I ain't even worried about them because there's even more people who are being supportive and showing love. God bless everyone who's supporting me throughout this journey of mine. I want you all to know that I'm okay. I've got an even bigger story to translate through my music, documentary, books and movie. So let's not just look at the negative side of the situation. Remember ... this is not a problem ... it's only a situation and situations can get solved," Cashtastic wrote.
The biggest market for rap music is in the United States. However, the UK is gradually carving out a market for itself within its borders.
Several UK rappers have achieved relative success even outside of the United Kingdom, such as Chipmunk, who has collaborated with Mavado, and Chris Brown and Tinie Tempah, who have worked with Wiz Khalifa.
It is uncertain if Cashtastic will thrive as a rapper living in Jamaica. The island has bred several rappers such as Five Steez, Nadz and KK Holiday, among others. However, none have achieved commercial success.
Several UK-based artistes have also shown support for the artiste and are begging for leniency on his behalf.
According to Kano, one of those artistes, "He has lived here since the age of six and is now a role model, tax-paying professional in the music industry. This is wrong."
